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Nearly All the Men in Lagos Are Mad by Damilare Kuku

by Ikupolusi Ariyike

Damilare Kuku’s Nearly All the Men in Lagos Are Mad is a bold, witty, and entertaining collection of twelve short stories that explores modern relationships, heartbreak, betrayal, and the often chaotic realities of dating in Lagos. Published in 2021, the book quickly became a literary sensation in Nigeria, largely because of its provocative title and its unfiltered portrayal of contemporary romance.

But rather than telling a single story, Kuku presents a series of interconnected experiences through the voices of different women navigating love, marriage, friendship, and self-discovery. From cheating partners and manipulative lovers to overbearing mothers-in-law and emotionally unavailable men, each story examines a different aspect of the dating landscape in Lagos.

What Works Well

One of the book’s greatest strengths is its relatability. Kuku writes in a conversational style that feels authentic and familiar, making the characters’ experiences both humorous and painfully real. Her use of everyday language, Nigerian slang, and cultural references helps create vivid stories that resonate with many readers.  

Moreover, the women in these stories are particularly memorable. They are flawed, resilient, vulnerable, and strong in equal measure. While the title suggests a critique of men, the book is ultimately more interested in exploring how women respond to disappointment, betrayal, and societal expectations.

Another standout feature is Lagos itself. The city is not merely a backdrop but a living character. Vibrant, chaotic, fast-paced, and unpredictable. The atmosphere of Lagos shapes every relationship and decision within the collection.

Themes

The collection tackles several important themes:

-Modern dating and relationship dynamics

-Infidelity and betrayal

-Female agency and empowerment

-Marriage and societal expectations

-Patriarchy and gender roles

-Self-worth and emotional resilience

Nearly all the men in Lagos are mad isn’t just a men-bashing book; it offers a complex, wild range of societal issues, struggles, and resilience of women in the city. Kuku balances serious issues with humour, ensuring the stories remain engaging even when addressing difficult subjects.

Ratings: 4.5/5

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