by Franklin Ekezie
Getting older is a blessing, though it sometimes comes with a few extra “gifts” we did not exactly ask for. And for men, these “gifts” can include issues like prostate health concerns. Just like heart health or managing blood pressure, prostate health deserves a spot on our radar, especially as our loved ones age.
So, what is the prostate, and why is it such a big deal? The prostate is a walnut-sized gland that’s part of the male reproductive system, producing fluid that mixes with sperm to create semen. It even helps in the “grand finale” of ejaculation. And while women don’t have a prostate, they have the Skene gland, which—fun fact—has its own role in female reproductive health (and, yes, we’ll just smile and leave it at that!).
Here’s the thing: as men age, the risk of prostate issues goes up. One in eight men will face prostate concerns in their lifetime. In fact, experts say that all men are likely to have some prostate issues if they live long enough. By age 40, a bit of prostate growth is normal, and by 80, over 90% of men have some prostate enlargement.
Yet, despite these numbers, prostate issues are a conversation most men avoid like the plague. But that’s where women, their partners, can step in with gentle encouragement. Let’s take Major Sam, who’s been navigating life with an enlarged prostate at over 70 years old. He’ll tell you himself that the support from his wife has made all the difference.
So, how can women support their partner if prostate health is a concern? Here’s how to help, all while keeping it light and loving!
It can be a little awkward, but a casual, non-pressuring conversation about health is often the best way to start. A great approach is to suggest an annual “Family Health Check-Up Day.” You can bundle all the health essentials in one go, blood pressure, blood sugar, cholesterol tests, abdominal scan, and of course, the PSA (Prostate-Specific Antigen) test. PSA is a simple blood test that checks levels associated with prostate health. Just like that, you’ve introduced a potentially uncomfortable topic in a way that feels like a team effort!
Use Your “Power of Attorney” in the Kitchen
One of the perks of being in charge of the family meals is the chance to steer the menu toward prostate-friendly foods. Tomatoes, walnuts, leafy greens, and saw palmetto can all promote healthy prostate function. Think of it as a fun way to get creative with meals while sneaking in some health benefits! Besides, you can make these changes subtly, before he knows it, he’s reaping the health rewards with every bite.
Be the Gentle Reminder for Check-Ups
Most of us aren’t thrilled about visiting the doctor or taking daily meds, and men are no exception. Here’s where you come in as the gentle nudge not a nag. Offer to go with him, or make it a casual outing by scheduling a fun eat out date afterward, if you can sponsor it that will even be most amazing. And if he’s taking medication, kindly remind him, but keep it low-pressure and supportive. It’s all about showing you’re there, not pushing too hard.
Be His Emotional Anchor
Health issues can hit the self-esteem hard, especially if they lead to other symptoms like erectile dysfunction. Listen, encourage, and reassure him that he’s not alone. Being there for him through the emotional side of things can mean more than anything. Remind him he’s not just loved, he’s loved enough to have a partner who’s invested in every part of his health.
Supporting a partner with prostate issues isn’t just about appointments and diet tweaks; it’s about creating a culture of openness, empathy, and even a little humour. With every step you take together, you’re helping to make health a shared journey and showing that every challenge is a little easier with love.
