Romantic Love Is Overrated. Community Love Is Undervalued.
By Ifeanyi’s Daughter Every February, love is reduced to a single story. It is presented as romance. As desire. As partnership. As something that happens between two people and is validated by flowers, dinners, and public affirmation. For a brief moment each year, love is framed as something soft, beautiful, and private. Everything else fades […]
Why Do We Treat Love Like Ownership Instead of Partnership?
By Ifeoma Udu Somewhere along the line, love started sounding like real estate. People do not just fall in love anymore. They claim. My man. My girl. My person. My wife. Somewhere between childhood fairytales and adult situationships, society decided that affection should come with a tiny invisible “Property Of” tag. From childhood, we are […]
Esther Perel and the Truth About Love We Have Been Avoiding
By Sipho Khumalo If love were simple, Esther Perel would not be one of the most sought after voices of our time. Yet here we are, entering another Valentine season, still confused, still longing, still searching for language that can explain why intimacy feels harder in a world that claims to be more connected than […]
A Married Man Asked Me Out for Valentine’s, and I Don’t Know What to Do
By Anonymous I never imagined I would find myself weighing morality against survival, yet here I am, staring at my phone and rereading a message I never asked for but somehow cannot ignore. A married man has asked me out for Valentine’s Day, and what makes the situation unbearable is not just the fact that […]
LOVE, IN ITS QUIET FORMS
By Francisca Sinjae Women love in ways that rarely ask for applause. Not because their love is small, but because it is precise. It lives in places that don’t photograph well: the pause before a reply, the habit of staying late, the instinct to remember what someone else forgets. Women love in gestures so ordinary […]
What We Wear When No One Is Watching
By Chloe Beaufoy There is a secret side to our wardrobes. It is not curated. It is not ironed. It is not waiting for compliments. It lives at home, far away from public opinion and dress codes. And honestly, it might be where our truest style shows up. What we wear when no one is […]